Deepening your levels of self-awareness
Developing life skills; like confidence, managing change, and reaching personal goals
Exploring the nature of life, health, culture, knowledge, and existence
Coaching for Evolving Wisdom
The search for personal happiness and fulfilment
When asked what they want in life, most people say they just want to be happy. They may even think that a particular object, person, or situation will make them happy.
But there are several problems with this scenario.
First of all, it is very vague. Happiness means different things to different people. So what will be great for one person, will make another feel stressed or unfulfilled. So, it's important to stop first, and find out what is really aligned with who you are as an individual.
Most people don't do this. They are inadvertently trying to fulfil the expectations of other people - of family, friends, or society. The result is that they get caught up in a never ending cycle of chasing something which will never make them happy anyway.
Another common problem is that even when we do identify something that we really want to achieve in our lives, we get stuck trying to make the changes we want. On one level, our mind knows that a particular path will be better for us, more aligned with our authentic self. Yet we just don't seem to be able to make the changes we so desperately desire.
This often results from a misunderstanding of the nature of how our mind actually works. So we read about something, understand it, and expect this to automatically translate into the change we want to see. But when it doesn't work, we either feel like a failure, or we are left frustrated. Generally speaking, the more we are unsuccessful, the more miserable we feel. Unfortunately, this is the complete opposite of the happiness that we are seeking.
On a deeper level again, we mistakenly get caught up in our own individual ideas, and don't not even consider how we are being impacted by the world around us. By the society we live in, or the cultural norms, expectations, and pressures that are influencing us. These are usually so ingrained into our lives, that we do not have any awareness of them. To the extent, that when someone asks us about the problem, we ask 'what problem?'.
The path of personal transformation
Exploring what stops us from creating the life that we desire has always been something which has been deeply interesting to me. It has led me from learning about models of change and psychology, through to eventually studying philosophy and metaphysics - exploring the deepest levels of understanding about life and health.
Any path of personal growth has the potential to take you as far as you want to go in removing the layers which are stopping you from experiencing the happiness and contentment that you seek.
For some people, this may involve making changes to their lives which leave them feeling more insightful, healthy, and fulfilled. For others, it will involve exploring the deeper dimensions of the mind, consciousness, and their relationship with life itself. Whichever path you choose is fine. As long as it is right for you.
Imagine how your life could be if you take this journey...
- To easily transform any aspect of your life
- To feel more self-aware, confident, and assertive
- To attract loving and supportive relationships into your life
- To live in abundance and prosperity
- And to have an authentic life filled with meaning and purpose
So, the next question is to ask yourself what is stopping you? Is this the first time that you have thought about making these changes in your life, or have you tried to do it before? And if you were not successful, what was it that got in the way? What can you do differently this time to make sure that you are successful?
The importance of wisdom for life and health
One of the things that I do differently to many other therapists, is that I explore life on an existential level.
Some of the topics that I have studied include philosophy of mind, consciousness, personal identity, the mind-body connection, and the metaphysics of well-being, trauma, and mental illness.
Why is this important? First, exploring these issues is a healthy part of personal or spiritual growth - of evolving into the best version of yourself that you can be. Not only does this bring more meaning and purpose into your life, but is also an important component of well-being.
In addition, many issues which create stress and illness do not fit within medical models of health. Whereas exploring them from spiritual, social, cultural, or existential perspectives can help you to develop the insight you need to recover, and to move on with your life.
Developing insight into life at an existential level is also an essential part of dealing with situations like bereavement, chronic illness, or life-threatening disease, and dealing with traumatic events or situations. How can you possibly resolve life-threatening or life-altering, situations without exploring the nature of life itself?
What exactly is wisdom?
Wisdom is the ability to be insightful, to have rational thinking, and to possess the ability to act in the best interests of yourself and others. It is often associated with qualities such as knowledge, compassion, empathy, rationality, non-judgement, common sense, experience, and clarity of perception.
Wisdom is closely associated with understanding the nature of your mind, thoughts, and beliefs, and how they impact your behaviour, emotional reactions, and feelings of wellness.
Since wisdom explores a self- awareness of the mind, in some ways it is similar to some mental health therapies. The main difference is that wisdom coaching explores the mind on an existential level, rather than using a socially or medically-orientated model. It also takes into consideration wider factors, like how social, cultural, political, or moral issues can create stress, and impact our level of wellness.
Wisdom and wellbeing
So why is wisdom important when it comes to health and well-being?
Many issues around health and quality of life are directly related to stress, including physical ailments, chronic illness, mental or emotional concerns, and spiritual or existential crises.
People usually experience stress because something is not going the way they want it to. This can occur on many different levels. So, maybe their partner is acting in a way they don't like, or someone has an opinion that they find offensive. Or, on a deeper level, perhaps they are going through a major trauma, or a life-threatening illness. In both of these cases, stress occurs as a reaction to an event or situation, but they are happening on different levels of experience.
The amount of stress which occurs in the person is essentially an indicator of the gap between what is happening, and the persons capacity to deal with it. It's important to note that this is not a judgement - simply a noticing of what is happening.
The important thing to be aware of here is that by developing wisdom and insight into any situation, it is possible to reduce the amount of stress which you experience. This in turn will improve the level of well-being that you experience, and your quality of life.
Types of Wisdom
There are many different types of wisdom, but I focus on coaching and support for three main areas of life:
1 - Developing self-awareness and insight.
Inner wisdom is noticing your internal experiences - thoughts, feelings, beliefs, sensations, emotions and reactions.
Becoming self-aware is an essential skill that you need to develop, if you want to change your life in any real and lasting way.
Ongoing stress results from the thoughts, beliefs, and habits that we have learnt in our life. Everyone learn how to cope with life in different ways, and this is influenced by our parents, environment, and the society in which we live. So, we all have different personal experiences, and these in turn influence how we perceive and react to certain situations.
We may be aware of some stressors, and the impact they are having on us. This might seem terrible at the time, but actually it can be a blessing in disguise, because then we know where to focus our attention. It is presenting us with an opportunity for change.
But unfortunately, stress is also usually operating without our conscious awareness... so the stress continues until we finally recognise it, and decide to change this pattern to something which works better for our health and well-being.
So, self-awareness is all about the process of becoming aware of yourself, and noticing the thoughts, feelings, and habits which may be making you ill or unhappy. It focuses on you, and your inner world.
2 - Personal development and skills for life.
Personal development focuses on your interaction with the world around you, and your ability to thrive in the environment in which you live.
So, this type of wisdom is about action, relationships, and personal fulfilment in life. It's about developing the practical skills to navigate the world around you. Being able to align with what makes you happy, what brings you joy, and being able to share your gifts with others.
Some of the things that I help people with include:
- Improving self confidence
- Changing relationship patterns
- Finding your life purpose
- Achieving personal goals
- Overcoming social anxiety
- Moving past addictive behaviours
- Integrating healthy habits into your life
All personal or spiritual development requires self-awareness as a basis to work from. But it also requires action. Putting knowledge and insight into practice, and so this is what this type of coaching will help you to do.
3 - Spiritual and existential wisdom.
Existential wisdom explores the relationship between who you are, and life itself. It may (or may not) include spiritual or religious beliefs and practices which are important to you.
Spirituality is an important component of health and well-being, but one which is often neglected or overlooked. There are many reasons for this, many of which are historical; things like power struggles, social expectations, and an inability to distinguish between genuine spirituality and questionable beliefs.
So, the importance of existential wisdom is often ignored - until you encounter a situation in life which brings it into your full focus. This might be through illness, bereavement, loss, violence, war, or natural disaster. Anything which makes you question life itself.
On the other hand, many people naturally find themselves on a spiritual quest as an important part of their life, and have a deep desire to explore issues including meaning, purpose, life and death, ethics, morality, and compassion towards others.
Understanding the fundamental nature of the mind and consciousness is central to many spiritual belief systems, including Eastern religions like Buddhism or Hinduism, and the wisdom traditions in Christianity and Judaism. It is also closely associated with the nature of the soul as described in the Abrahamic traditions.
Wisdom coaching can provide you with the ultimate form of stress relief. It can help you to reduce fear which is associated with deeper existential concerns, or issues relating to life and death.
My wisdom coaching sessions can help you with...
- Practising mindfulness
- Changing patterns of thought or belief
- Improving your health and happiness
Improving your life
- Dealing with difficult situations
- Finding meaning and purpose
- Learning practical skills for a better life
Personal or spiritual development
- Align with your highest purpose in life
- Explore the fundamental nature of your mind
- Resolve existential concerns and questions
1-to-1 Programme for Evolving Wisdom
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